loving + losing yourself.

Making yourself better equates to finding better people. It is such a worn out line, yet we still don't listen. There is a lot to say for it. The best aha! moments that I have had in my life were sans relationship drama and in complete solitude. It was then, that I was more in touch with my soul, and what I wanted out of life. It was then that I took more action and felt a sense of accomplishment. Genuine fulfillment poured into my life.

When you have a certain kind of personality that involves loving too much, toxicity has the capability of pouring in easily. You lose yourself in love, and you get paralyzed. If you let a monster into your life, it is indicative of where your head was in the beginning. Most likely, that head still needed some work. In time, you start listening to everyone else's opinions and the demons in your own mind. You start living for others, and you ignore your own inner voice and stray from your path.

We can only blame ourselves for that. We have always had the power to remain who we are. If you are in a toxic relationship, and believe that is holding you back, walk away. However, check in with yourself to ensure you don't need to work on your own inner toxicity. It won't always be someone else's fault. There is a reason why the wrong people keep entering our lives.

There is nothing wrong with spending some time alone. Love yourself first, and attract your true soul mate. That person will encourage you, support you, give you space to thrive, and lift you when you have fallen short. A whole person + a whole person is a real power couple.

Xo,

Lisa <3